What can loss teach us with Lucy Hone
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2026年03月30日
Can we learn to live and grieve at the same time? In this episode of The Examined Life, host Kenny Primrose sits down with world-renowned resilience researcher Dr. Lucy Hone to discuss the science of resilient grieving and how to navigate life after devastating loss.
Dr. Lucy Hone’s work isn’t just academic. it’s deeply personal. After years of training military personnel in resilience at the University of Pennsylvania, her world was shattered by a 2014 car accident that claimed the life of her 12-year-old daughter, Abi.
In this conversation, Lucy challenges the "stages of grief" and the idea of "bouncing back," offering instead a practical, evidence-based framework for psychological flexibility and coping with grief.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The 3 Habits of Resilient Grievers: Practical tools to regain agency during suffering.
The "Helping or Harming" Test: How to evaluate your thoughts and actions.
Realistic Optimism: Why accepting the universality of suffering is the first step toward healing.
The Jigsaw Metaphor: How to rebuild a life that has been completely dismantled by tragedy.
Hidden Grief: Insights from Lucy’s new book, How Will I Ever Get Through This?, on navigating non-death losses.
Chapters:
0:00 - Introduction: The Examined Life Series on Grief
02:15 - From the Penn Resilience Program to Personal Tragedy
07:40 - Why "Bouncing Back" is a Myth
12:30 - The 3 Secrets of Resilient People
18:50 - The Helping vs. Harming Question
25:10 - Oscillating Between Grieving and Living
32:00 - Rebuilding the Jigsaw Puzzle of Life
38:45 - Hidden Grief and Non-Death Loss
45:00 - Closing Thoughts & Resources
Resources Mentioned:
Book: Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss
New Book: How Will I Ever Get Through This? (On hidden and non-death grief)
TED Talk: The Three Secrets of Resilient People
Connect with The Examined Life:
Host: Kenny Primrose
Website: www.examined-life.com
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ExaminedLifePodcast
Follow & Subscribe on substack: https://thisexaminedlife.substack.com/
Support the series - buymeacoffee.com/kennyprimrose
If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps others find these conversations.
#Grief #Resilience #DrLucyHone #MentalHealth #TheExaminedLife #GriefRecovery #Psychology #LossAndGrief #ResilientGrieving
Dr. Lucy Hone’s work isn’t just academic. it’s deeply personal. After years of training military personnel in resilience at the University of Pennsylvania, her world was shattered by a 2014 car accident that claimed the life of her 12-year-old daughter, Abi.
In this conversation, Lucy challenges the "stages of grief" and the idea of "bouncing back," offering instead a practical, evidence-based framework for psychological flexibility and coping with grief.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The 3 Habits of Resilient Grievers: Practical tools to regain agency during suffering.
The "Helping or Harming" Test: How to evaluate your thoughts and actions.
Realistic Optimism: Why accepting the universality of suffering is the first step toward healing.
The Jigsaw Metaphor: How to rebuild a life that has been completely dismantled by tragedy.
Hidden Grief: Insights from Lucy’s new book, How Will I Ever Get Through This?, on navigating non-death losses.
Chapters:
0:00 - Introduction: The Examined Life Series on Grief
02:15 - From the Penn Resilience Program to Personal Tragedy
07:40 - Why "Bouncing Back" is a Myth
12:30 - The 3 Secrets of Resilient People
18:50 - The Helping vs. Harming Question
25:10 - Oscillating Between Grieving and Living
32:00 - Rebuilding the Jigsaw Puzzle of Life
38:45 - Hidden Grief and Non-Death Loss
45:00 - Closing Thoughts & Resources
Resources Mentioned:
Book: Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss
New Book: How Will I Ever Get Through This? (On hidden and non-death grief)
TED Talk: The Three Secrets of Resilient People
Connect with The Examined Life:
Host: Kenny Primrose
Website: www.examined-life.com
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ExaminedLifePodcast
Follow & Subscribe on substack: https://thisexaminedlife.substack.com/
Support the series - buymeacoffee.com/kennyprimrose
If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps others find these conversations.
#Grief #Resilience #DrLucyHone #MentalHealth #TheExaminedLife #GriefRecovery #Psychology #LossAndGrief #ResilientGrieving
